My view was that the bible was the sound judgment on one’s lifestyle and that same sex marriage was not possible. Maybe a civil union but they should always have something beneath heterosexuals. Also, that being homosexual, they would not go to Heaven because their lifestyle is an abomination according to Leviticus:
· 18:22 Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.
· 20:13 If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
(Please check out this link for more reading.)
As I have stated, I have two wonderful lesbian friends but they were never aware of how I felt and I never thought I should have said anything because they mean more to me than their sexuality. Over the years, I have made a few more homosexual friends. They did know how I felt. We all just accepted the differences. Over the past year, I have had an epiphany.
I was watching a video someone posted on Facebook from Youtube. It was a documentary about how homosexuals are treated in conservative Texas at a diner. It was a mock set up but the patrons of the establishment were not actors. The fact that twenty nine states allow the refusal of service based on someone’s sexuality had me completely upset. That was when it happened. “We are all humans.” And we all deserve to be treated fairly based on the fact that we ARE humans. Not our race, origins, religion, AND sexuality.
My reaction after watching that video to my best friend.
"Im sorry, love. I love you. I love everything about you. You are one of the greatest men I know. Your preference means nothing to me because it doesn't define who you are. YOU define who you are. I love you for never giving up on who you are. I can't say I would be one of those people that would have stood up to that lady or not, because I cry under confrontation publicly but I wouldn't want ANYONE to treat you like that, ever. You are an inspiration to me. I am proud to have you as my friend."
I mean, seriously, when we get to know people do we question this new friend on if he/she is gay? No! We want to know about their likes, dislikes, favorites, past, etc. I know for a fact the very first time I ever spoke to my best friend, who is a homosexual man; I was trying to set him up on a date with a mutual female friend of ours. He kept saying, “I don’t think she is my type.” When he came out to me, I reverted around and tried to set him up with another male friend. Who he sleeps with is his business and all I wanted for him was someone to be happy with.
So, why can’t he or any homosexuals have marriage or kids or be Christian? Because society tells us that they aren’t allowed to. Who are we to judge? Because two verses out of millions in the Bible say they can’t. Because it is immoral or an abomination? NO! Why? Because if they are immoral, then take a look at how our society promotes teenage pregnancy with 16 & Pregnant or Casey Anthony getting away with murdering her child. Both of those are immoral and the latter is an abomination.
We should not LOOK at someone’s sexuality as if it is something to determine if we get to know a person. I know for a fact that there are FOUR homosexuals in my life that are amazing people. I got to know each one of them before I knew their sexuality because their sexuality is not my business OR societies. It is a person life choice, just like giving your heart to Jesus and accepting him as your personal Lord and Savior.
I was wrong in my previous views. I judged people on their sexuality. I felt they were lesser people than me. I am so happy that I no longer see it that way because, seriously, I was missing out on some great people. Not because they are homosexual but because of who they really are. A graphic designer, an IT tech, cake decorator, and game art designer and they are so much more than their career preferences. They have some of the same interests as the rest of us. They like the same movies, have the same hobbies, and they are very good conversationalists.
FACT: Actually, the group of people most likely to molest children is heterosexual men. Perpetrators are generally someone the child knows well, if not a relative, then at least someone in a trusted position like a coach or a teacher. That’s a reality most parents shudder to face. In some ways, it’s easier to think that the danger lies “out there” in the gay community. But if you truly want to protect your child, you’ll make yourself aware of the important people in his or her life and how he or she interacts with them…regardless of sexual orientation.
MYTH: Gays can’t reproduce, so they recruit children.
FACT: For most people, homosexuality appears to be a character trait that they are born with or acquire very early in life. The majority of gay and lesbian people feel that their attraction to the same sex is no more a choice than a straight person’s attraction to the opposite sex. In fact, far from being recruited, gays and lesbians throughout history have had to make a conscious and often heroic effort to find and connect with the gay community.
MYTH: Gays want special rights.
FACT: Gays want equal rights. For instance, I want the right to marry a woman I love. The right to marry can hardly be called a special right, since it is enjoyed by some 90% of the population. I want the right to be free from discrimination in my job, my housing, and my community. As things stand today, if my supervisor were homophobic, she could call me into her office and fire me tomorrow for no other reason than my being a lesbian, and no law would protect me. My landlord could enter my apartment, see a calendar featuring famous lesbians, and evict me, and no law exists to protect me from that, either. Luckily, my supervisor and my landlord are decent people, but I would like to be able to rely on legal protection rather than simply hoping for random good will.
MYTH: Gays want to undermine Christianity.
FACT: In this country, the majority of gay people identify as Christians (as do the majority of straight people).
MYTH: Gays pose a risk to the institution of marriage.
FACT: With the divorce rate at a solid 50%, networks broadcasting shows that wed billionaires to bimbos, and celebrities getting married in Las Vegas only to divorce a day or so later, I can’t help but think that heterosexual marriage faces far more alarming challenges than allowing couples of the same sex to marry. In truth, allowing same sex couples to marry would simply give a small portion of the population a right that most people take for granted. It would not detract anything from traditional marriage.
MYTH: Gays spread AIDS
FACT: When AIDS first began to show itself in North America in the early 1980s, it was seen disproportionately among gay men and IV drug users (the disease is so rare as to be almost unheard of among the lesbian population). Since then, however, AIDS has become an equal opportunity disease and is now deeply entrenched in the heterosexual community. Never assume that you are safe just because your partner identifies as “straight.”
Another Myth: Gays DO want your body!
Fact: Just because your friend has come out gay, this doesn’t mean they are instantly attracted to you because you are the same sex. They came out to you out of trust, security and belief of acceptance. It is your own vanity that thinks you are hot shit and that even gays want you. Think about it. You have a type of person you are attracted to. For example, I am attracted to semi-tall, dark hair, dark eyed, intelligent, humorous men. My best friend isn’t attracted to that. At all. So he isn’t going to chase my heterosexual boyfriend. Also, they usually seek out known gays for the most part. Gays aren’t going to hit on you UNLESS you open the door to it by acting like you are into it.
Instead of listening to the misconceptions on homosexuals, why not just get to know the person who just happens to be gay? There is so much more than that. I love my gay friends, just as much as my heterosexual friends. This is my stance. I am taking it. I support LGBT and equality for them to have the same equal rights as heterosexuals. Like it or not, they are humans and I won’t tolerate people not treating them as such.
Please join me in learning more about a few organizations that give further reading on the homosexual community and FAQs.
LGBT Rights
The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Community Center
It Gets Better Project
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